Life Lessons 101: Anger Management

28 09 2015

I have learned many lessons for the past 11 months. If there really is one important lesson that I would like to share with myself over this post article, it would have to be that – Managing my expectations towards people and situations.

I guess having a second career in an alternate industry gave me a deeper understanding towards what I previously thought I was an expert in. Life is like a game of poker, you win some and you lose some. However, if you work at improving your gaming skills (in addition to an element of luck on one’s side), eventually you will be a winner. I don’t expect to be on the winning side all the time, but I see the need to minimize my losses when I can predict the actual outcome.

The determining factor in my wins and loses would be the ability to control my emotions and not let it get the better out of me. As I age into my 30’s, I hope to see myself as a person who knows how to pick his battles. I wish to be wise enough, to live and fight another good fight. Ultimately, I have to differentiate between pride and principle.

And once again, I thank you all ladies and gentlemen for giving me the opportunity to take the red pill and stay in wonderland, to explore the infinite possibilities of the rabbit hole.

Amen to that.


My thoughts…

7 05 2011

Of certain things have changed. Well, sort of actually. God has been rather kind to me with regards to my career, probably not so with the other aspects of my life, but hey, he’s been pretty nice to me already. I’ll have to work harder if I want to improve my life. So I just want to say, “Dear God, thank You for everything and forgive me for the sins that I’ve committed.”

That aside, I’m back in the army serving my national service for another week. Having encountered things that should not be seen nor heard, it made me realize that I shouldn’t take things for granted and to be more respectful of my surroundings from now on. “Dear God, please take good care of my fellow comrades as thou has towards me.”

My future – 5 years and beyond; My vote has been casted and the tribe will be spoken tomorrow. Regardless of the result, my only wish is for a better tomorrow for everyone. The decisions that I’ve taken up today will surely affect my life sooner or later, be it good or bad. “Dear God, let me receive an anointing and guide me through the good times and bad.”



29 05 2010

I never believed in making resolutions. Probably because I procrastinate more often than I should. Looking back at the times I spent needlessly do almost nothing at all scares me, literary.

Keeping fit, catching up with friends and relatives, taking care of my wife and mum, concentrating on my studies, working for a better life (present and future), staying faithful to my religion, spending quality time with my pet dog and more plans in-the-making.

Humans are simple creatures capable of having complicated lives.

A simple life would be going through a general education so as to secure a job that pays decently with a bearable amount of workload. Meeting someone that shares that same viewpoint of leading a simple life, to fall in love with that someone and get married to them. The next step in a simple life would be to have children that would most likely go through the same cycle of lives that their parents are leading and eventually, to retire with enough time and money to enjoy the remainder of our earthly lives before we ascend to a (hopefully) place with higher calling.

While a complicated life would be trying to equip oneself with life skills for the future while we are young and to get enrolled into an elite school at almost every stage of our academic lives to receive the best education that the country can offer. If one is hopeful, a scholarship comes along the way as a form of bonus. Having MNCs or government sectors to knock on our doors to offer positions that one can hardly reject. Marrying the dream partner of our choice plus, coupled with the best DNA you think you could ever have, to produce one of the most intelligent and beautiful child (or children) in your so called ‘perfect world’. And lastly, to build your very own empire and retire with a legacy for the next generation because by then, you probably would have the financial capability of allowing your children to achieve any and every dream they desire to, thus kick starting their very own complicated life.

There are a handful whose choices may defer from the above two scenarios, however they are just only a handful. Having said that, there will be times when people leading with a simple or complicated life may look on with envy at these handful, but it really is a classic case of ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’.

Having mentioned all that, I wonder what should my resolution be.

Sigh, God help.

The Life After Death

17 01 2010

I’ve just receive news that someone I knew have passed away after battling with cancer. To be honest, I’m sad about it. One person’s journey on earth has ended and I wasn’t really sure if he had any unfulfilled aspirations.

And as I pondered about life and death on my journey back home, my mp3 player played Corriene May’s Fly Away, followed by Pet Shop Boy’s Go West. What iorny. I hope it really is peaceful over there.



1 01 2010

Time flies so fast, it has been 10 years since I graduated from secondary school. There were so many situations that I never could have imagined coming across, but I did.

Looking back at what the younger generations are currently capable of doing, I must admit that there are a lot of potential in them – to believe in their dreams and to chase them. As long as their hearts are still as pure as they once were, they can pretty much achieve it. I hope that I did not take 10 years of my life and waste it. Neither do I wish to see anyone waste theirs.

In comparison to the rest of the people I know, I’m not really that old. However, it’s a sign when I see my peers knocking out that easily during festive seasons that I’ll start to feel physically older in the few years to come. I wonder what will be my views in life then? Hopefully I’ll still be blogging so I can look myself, in a different live of light.

Here’s to everyone and anyone – Seasons greetings and a happy new year 🙂

Anyone say ‘Cheeze’?

23 06 2009

15 June 2009

CRIMINAL lawyer Adrian Wee, from Characterist LLC, said it is not an offence to take photographs in public areas.

‘The owner of a private property, like a shopkeeper, is entitled to set any rule he wants on people entering his shop,’ said MrWee.

‘But in a public area, there is no law against photography.’

This means that even if a person takes pictures of the merchandise which are openly displayed in a public area, it is not an offence to do so.

In fact, the shop owner has no right to chase the photographer away as long as the photographer is on public ground.

‘Technically, the shopkeeper can only prevent the photographer from entering his shop, but they cannot stop someone from photographing from outside,’ he said.

‘Someone could be standing outside their shop and take pictures all day, and that would not be an offence.’


If a photographer uses a zoom lens to shoot the interior of the shop, it is also not illegal.

The same goes for taking the pictures of the facades of buildings like the National Library Building and the Esplanade.

In fact taking pictures on private property is also not criminal in nature.

‘The person taking the pictures is only flouting the rules of the property set by the owner but this would render the person liable to be thrown out,’ he said.

But Mr Wee further elaborated, if a person has been thrown out of a private property and barred from entering, then to enter the property again would be trespassing which is a criminal offence.”

Technically speaking, that would mean I could take pictures of anyone or anything as long as I’m in a public area? Pretty scary if you were to ask me. Especially if I happened to have a rather misleading picture taken by a stomper at a weird timing, so to say the very least. But we do have the right to throw out the offender if they were in our premises, if we don’t like what they are doing?


Nah, I don’t think that will ever happen, not in a million years from where I’m coming from.


Quote of the day

24 02 2009

“I understand what is love, yet i cannot explain it and somehow i don’t know what it is. Somehow i feel a bit afraid when i think of love, the many possible obstacles between me and the person i love, the possabilities of inevitable pain, of failure. But when im with him all these worries go away, when im doing something i love all worries go away, everything seems to shine when i let myself off any possible fear.

So we must brake off from any fear possible, it’s trully our only obstacle. We must also understand that what must end, will end. But what will be, it will always be, not matter what. We just have to always follow our heart, and believe that that person will wait for us no matter what, if not, then it wasn’t simply meant to be. Because true love will stand on its own and nothing will be able to break it” – anonymous

I know there is something known as google but I prefer to leave it the way I stumble upon it.

I just wish to be like her, all the time.

Love is very very abstract topic to begin with and there are times when one feels that they could be in it, but do they truely know what they feel in them is what they think it is? I don’t think I’ll touching on this subject in my blog, at least not for now when I’m not in my right frame of thoughts.

I’ll just leave it to you guys to interpret the quote in your own terms.